I first took lessons in the mid-1970’s with my then husband in Binghamton, NY. We  joined the ACBL. We played some social bridge and played duplicate twice a week. We enjoyed the social aspect as well as the challenge of competition, but we never set the bridge world on fire.

In 1980, we relocated to Philadelphia, PA. Not knowing anyone in our new home, we decided to play bridge at a local bridge club to meet new people and continue to enjoy the game (and, maybe, improve it). Our experience was devastating. People were suspicious of us as newcomers and very nasty. We felt unwelcome and never returned.  I did not play bridge again for almost 30 YEARS!

In 2010, following a divorce and the raising of my children, I decided to give bridge another try. I had pretty much forgotten anything I had ever learned, which was okay, since the rules had changed. I took some classes with a teacher who would become my mentor. I joined with some other classmates in a weekly social game, but I didn’t have the courage to get involved in playing duplicate.  My teacher, Bobbie, encouraged me to do so.  I was delighted to find that the ACBL still had my account and had saved the very few points I had accumulated from 30+ years before.

Fast forward to 2020.  I was still playing social bridge and, occasionally, playing at a tournament.  COVID hit, and, to my horror, my teacher, my mentor, and my friend, Bobbie, died from it at the very beginning.  I was devastated.  I stopped playing bridge for the next 2 years.  I lost my motivation, but I missed the game.

In 2022, I took a few more classes.  None of my friends played bridge, so I joined a club.  I found a new home and new friends.  I am still not the world’s greatest player, but I enjoy playing.  Our club is relaxed and welcoming to all.  After playing in the “come-out-and-play” for close to a year, I “graduated” to the regular duplicate bridge games.  I now play twice a week, and a third time on Bridge Base Online.  I was recently on a trip to Australia, and my partner and I were able to play online!  

I have now earned more points (mostly percentages of a point), but I look forward to playing and am improving my game.

My story is similar to most. I joined the ACBL in the late 90’s, I believe. I also was one of the early members of BBO after the Beta testing. My bridge experience prior to joining the ACBL was Yahoo Bridge, and it was Rubber Bridge. I had zero idea what Duplicate Bridge was, and the learning curve was long and steep! I played for a few years, and in 2002 several years of illness began, and I stepped away from bridge.

When I returned to BBO in 2006 it was after a brain surgery, and my neurologist suggested bridge to reignite my problem solving and focus. It worked! I fell in love with the game all over again. I started taking SAYC lessons, and working to improve my duplicate game. I didn’t know how points worked, and honestly didn’t care. I played a few times in my local club live games, but I found the autonomy of BBO more enjoyable.

In 2012, life got in the way of bridge due to an unexpected job loss, and career change. I didn’t come back to the game again until 2016, and it was both BBO, and live bridge. This time, bridge wasn’t as much fun. The game had grown, and I was left in the dust. I played live in my local club, and I was honestly a horrible bridge player. One of the players in the club gave me a lesson book on how to play bridge, and I was both mortified and humbled. I stopped playing live at that club, and 100% focused on playing online, learning 2/1, and dedicating as much time as I could to learning the game, and getting up to speed with players similar to my level, all while not caring about points.

In 2019, I met a girl online, and we hit it off as friends, and as bridge partners. In March of 2020, Covid hit and I was so happy I had bridge as therapy. My new friend and I, along with other random partners, found time to play, and develop our game. In Nov/Dec 2022, my friend invited me to the Phoenix NABC, and I was hooked on tournament play. I also at this time started paying attention to points.

I checked on my points at ACBL.org, and realized I was under the “new” rules. I called the ACBL, and was told I needed to catch up for the years I didn’t pay my dues, and then I could be under the rules that were in effect when I joined. It amounted to over $500. I knew I hadn’t earned many, if any, points back then, so I didn’t understand why I needed to pay that much money. Anyway, I wasn’t prepared to pay that amount, so I let it go. I attended several NABC’s, Regionals, and Sectionals from 2022, until the Spring of 2024 when I moved to DE.

I started attending the Shore Bridge Club in Rehoboth, and the Shuffles Bridge Club in Ocean View weekly. I met a member who asked me how many points I had, and at the time I think I had around 500. She said, “Oh, you’re a LifeMaster”, and I responded, no. I told her my story from above, and she told me, “You keep calling until the answer is you owe a small penalty.” So, I did. Lo, and behold, last year I was granted back to the old rules, and I needed a few silver points to make LifeMaster. Since silver points are only available at STaC games and sectionals, they’re hard to come by. Luckily, BBO offers “Silver Linings Week” several times a year. I made achieving LifeMaster my goal!

I’m elated, honestly. I chuckle when I think back on when points didn’t matter to me. Perhaps now they won’t matter as much either.

But, what I’ve gained on my journey is a long list of bridge friends who are like family. We vacation together around bridge tournaments. We talk incessantly about the game we all love! I’m encouraged to play live, and I do as often as I can.

I will play with anyone who asks me to play, regardless of skill level. I remember the sting of that incident in 2016, and I don’t want another person to be made to feel less than when it comes to the game.

At the end of the day, it’s still a card game!